Congratulations are in order for Bea Alonzo, who recently confirmed her engagement with her beau Dominic Roque. In what seems to be an intimate moment, she said yes to spending the rest of her life with him, making us believe that despite all the trials and tribulations (she did went through a looot), the right one is just waiting there somewhere.
In celebration of the momentous occasion in the actress’ life, we rounded up the ~best lessons~ we learned from Bea herself about love. Whether you are still head over heels with a long-term S.O., going through a breakup, or just coming back to your ~lover girl~ era, there are surely some wise words for you! Plus, some iconic quotes to live by.
Love lessons we learned from Bea Alonzo:
Lesson # 1: Date whoever you want.
We’ve all been there! Sometimes you date someone, and not everyone will agree to it, but if you feel like that person is good for you and doesn’t exhibit a major red flag (ahem), then to heck with anyone else’s opinion, right? At the end of the day, you’re the one who makes your own choices, and that includes the ones you’ll commit yourself to.
Take it from Bea, who defended Dominic from bashers who said he’s “below her league.” She said, “Never akong tumingin sa estado ng isang lalaki kahit kailan. I mean, meron nga diyang iba ang ganda-ganda on paper, napagdaanan ko na yan, ang cute namin in paper pero hindi naman nagwo-work, di ba?”
Lesson # 2: Be unafraid to cut ties with someone you can’t trust.
It goes without saying that trust is important in any healthy relationship, be it romance or friendship. So if you ever feel bad about cutting ties with someone who betrayed you (Alexa, play Traitor by Olivia Rodrigo), just quote Bea. When asked if there’s a possibility for her to be on *good terms* with her ex Gerald Anderson, she offered an honest response: “Hindi, because I can never be friends with somebody I cannot trust and somebody who doesn’t take responsibility for his actions.”
Lesson # 3: You don’t need a rebound lover to move on from a relationship.
Moving on is one of those “easier said than done” experiences because, in reality, breakups are just too messy, and the convenient way to move forward is just to get a “rebound” to make you forget about your heartache. But take it from B herself: Sometimes all your heart needs is a break to heal. After a breakup, she had an empowering response to someone who asked her if she was already dating someone new. “Wala pa naman. Parang magpapahinga muna ako. Parang hindi ko pa kaya. Hindi naman kailangan ng boyfriend para patunayang naka-move on ka na.”
Lesson # 4: Don’t let anyone question your worth.
In life, people come and go. That doesn’t mean you have to take it personally and let it diminish your self-confidence. Asked about her advice on fellow victims of ghosting, Bea quipped: "Move on, girl. His loss! Ang mahirap doon, hindi ka nabigyan ng chance to know what's wrong. And you blame yourself, right? I want to tell [you] not to blame yourself anymore. Kung hindi ka binigyan ng respect to end the relationship, that means na it's good riddance. Kasi ibig sabihin hindi ka niya nirerespeto, and in the long run baka mas malala pa yung nangyari. So pick up the pieces and move on."
Lesson # 5: Time has a way of revealing the truth.
I’m sure you’ve already used this iconic line in one convo or another, but if something doesn’t feel right and the truth won’t reveal itself for now, fret not because it will eventually do so in the future. And by then, fingers crossed, you’ll probably won’t be bothered to care anymore.
Lesson # 6: Go where you are loved.
Don't underestimate the power of platonic relationships. Whatever happened in your relationship is not an indicator of the love you can’t receive from other people, so go where you’re valued and loved. When Bea was nursing a broken heart, she penned a touching post in appreciation of her mom’s unwavering love. “I was not born with a silver spoon in my mouth, but I was raised knowing that I am loved.” Aww!
Lesson # 7: True love is out there waiting for you.
As cliché as it may sound, true, magnetic love is out there—you just got to trust the process. Take it from Bea, who, despite being the main character in so many romance movies, says nothing beats the real thing. Whatever happens, though, the best fairy tale is the one where you love and never forget yourself. That Prince Charming is just a big bonus, TBH!
Congratulations again, Bea! You deserve all the love, happiness, and more.
